Happy Valentine’s Day Invest In Your Relationships
You might wrong if you believe that romantic relationships built. On passions and the melding minds of two people something that is beyond explanation. Although people in love can seem preoccupied and emotional, or even irrational at times. There may be some very logical foundations to their romantic relationships. Our behaviours, how we relate to and react to our loved ones can predict certain things about our intimate relationships.
It’s not surprising that factors such as financial resources and physical attractiveness can play a significant role in selecting a partner. What happens after a couple is establish? The investment model is a popular explanation of how romantic relationships work. It can often be use to predict commitment. While commitment can difficult to define in this context, it is often understood to indicate attachment to a partner and an intention to stay with them for the long-term.
What Predicts Relationships Commitment?
The investment model’s key theme as its name implies is to view relationships in a way that looks a bit like a balance sheet but not in the manner you might expect. Being in a relationship can bring many benefits, including the ability to meet your emotional, intellectual, and physical needs. A relationship can also have its costs: arguments and possibly a loss of independence.
The investment model suggests that instead of weighing the pros and cons of a relationship, we will examine the overall outcome of these costs and benefits. These outcomes will be compare to our personal standards for what constitutes a good relationship.
If we expect that the best in relationships should outweigh any negatives, and our partner can be very kind, but can be cranky in the mornings, then our personal standard will be met, or exceeded (general kindness wins over morning grumpiness), then we will have relationship satisfaction.
However, if we believe that all relationships should be happy, and if our partner gets grumpy in mornings, then we won’t be satisfied with our relationship. This could explain why two people might have different relationships but still enjoy the same level of satisfaction.
It sounds simple enough: Find the person who meets or exceeds your standards, and you’ll have a great relationship. They have to be the one. The investment model shows that satisfaction in relationships is not sufficient to predict commitment.
Is It Greener Grass?
Next, we need to consider the quality of alternative options when it comes to relationships. If all things are equal, then we will consider the merits of alternative options and decide if they are better. This isn’t as cruel as it sounds. Alternatives could refer to someone we believe is better than our current partner. The superior choice might be more attractive, smarter, or more socially connected than your current partner. This depends on what you value most.
This doesn’t mean everyone wants to be a supermodel, or Noble Laureate. Superiority is only necessary if your partner isn’t your ideal partner. Alternatives could also refer to a different situation. You might decide that you are better alone if there is a lot of conflict within your relationship. This applies to both men and women: If you like being single, you will need someone who is very special to sweep you off your feet.
The Investment Model
These investments can be tangible (such as a house that you share with your partner) or intangible (such as the time and effort invested into improving a relationship). Indirect investments can also be made, such as in a shared social network and/or a shared status.
No matter what the investment is, the greater the risk of your partner leaving you, the higher the risk. Research has shown that the greater the amount of investment in your relationship, you are more likely to commit to your partner. You are correct if you think all of this is familiar from other contexts. You can use the investment model to predict many outcomes such as whether someone will stay employed or whether they will be loyal to a company.
How long can relationships last? These investment model factors are a significant part of relationship commitment. They account for around 60% of our commitment. Satisfaction is the most important component. However, it is not clear if this means people will stay in a relationship or go their separate ways. The link between commitment to a relationship and persistence of a relationship is very weak to moderate.
Influence The Longevity Of A Relationships
There are many other factors that can influence the longevity of a relationship. If you feel that your family and friends are supportive of the relationship, it is more likely that it will last. Even if your relationship with your partner is not strong, it doesn’t mean that you can’t have close relationships with family and friends. Your belongingness needs can still get met.
It can make a big difference how your relationship ended. A mutual breakup (where neither party initiated it) is more likely to lead to less satisfaction and commitment in future relationships. What can you do this Valentine’s Day to ensure that things are going smoothly in your relationship, and avoid disaster?
- You will have greater satisfaction in your relationship if you have realistic expectations
- Find the things you value most in your partner and look for opportunities to increase your emotional capital.
- Your relationship investment portfolio should be evaluated. The more you invest, the more you’ll get back.
Happy Valentine’s Day